Tag: self esteem

earthshaker1217:

sodhya:

sodomymcscurvylegs:

Y’all need to stop being so self-deprecating. You’re not boring or bland or whatever; you’re just shy and/or you’re not used to having conversations, but give yourself time and you’ll learn to find your groove when it comes to having conversations with others. You’ll get there and I’m sure plenty of people will find something interesting about you.

this hit me

Damn drag me.

puddingskinmcgee:

Honestly shoutout to all the ppl who are trying hard to be more positive and make meaningful changes in their lives and work towards recovery because this shits hard and people definitely don’t say it enough, but focusing on recovery is very difficult and the progress you make is so valuable, just by choosing to work towards bettering yourself you have already come so far and that’s something to be really proud of

evs14u:

adhdphysicist:

god theres all these strategies out there for combating executive dysfunction but what i really want is for people to acknowledge that no, sometimes you just cant beat it and you need to rest and try again later or get someone else to do it for you.

i feel like such a failure when i give up. i need to know its ok and its not my fault my brain doesnt let me do things most of the time, its not me being too weak to fight back.

This is super important, because you can have ALL the tips and tricks, but somedays your brain is more powerful. That’s ok. There will be days where you just can not fight it. Days were every chain breaks and you just can not hold on. 

On those days wrap yourself in a warm and comfy blanket and watch Netflix. 

It’s the loose the battle to win the war idea. The important day is to get up the next day and try again. It’s a lifelong war and there are days where you just loose a battle. 

caecilius-est-pater:

chickenonabicycle:

truejew:

darthmelyanna:

drst:

kristineirl:

this one’s for all the fat girls who’ve cried in dressing rooms 💗

You’re fine. The clothes are made to be easy to manufacture on machines, not for bodies. The clothes suck, not you.

They’re also manufactured to look attractive on hangers, and very few of us are shaped like hangers. You’re fine.

😱😰😭😭😭😭😭😭😭thank u please more of this type of body positivity I need it

Legit though! I’m a hobbyist seamstress and these are my experiences when shopping mainstream:

For example, most H&M blouses these days don’t even have boobdarts. Which means they will sit awkwardly on literally anyone with boobs, no matter the size. But on hangers or when folded on display? They look fab as fuck. Because hangers don’t have boobs. And the models chosen to show them on the catwalk are usually chosen for their lack of boobage too (unless it’s for lingerie), other requirements including ridiculous size and weight requirements. As for the average (EU available) clothing shops, the worst offender I’ve encountered yet was Zara. Everything’s way too long and way too flat: clearly aimed to look good on the catwalk models but not intended for normal people. At all.

Also sizes are just numbers. Shopping online has taught me that I’m a European M, an American XS-S, and a Japanese L-XL. And then these sizes even vary from shop to shop in the same country: I’m an XL at Apples but an S at Lola&Liza, for example. They’ve also been reducing the sizes of these numbers throughout the years to make people feel bad about themselves and to sell more weight-loss products. Don’t let a number get you down, it does not define you.

So please don’t feel bad about yourself when shops refuse to cater to your size. The clothes they sell are not aimed at real human beings. They are the ones in the wrong here, not you!

Also, literally everything celebrities/rich fashion people wear is tailored. Even something like jeans and a t shirt, they’ve taken those to a tailor and paid to have them altered to fit their body.

So it’s not your fault if you don’t look as good in things as famous people. Nothing they wear is off the rack.

bobbyverse:

Be careful how comfortable you get with jokes that cut yourself down and emphasize the false concept that there’s no hope for your future and life is pointless. I get that talking about struggles is important and helps in not feeling alone. There has to be a line though, between “hey here’s something that’s rough so I’m gonna laugh about it” and cheering each other on as you hammer unhealthy concepts deeper into your mind. You are not worthless. You are not ugly. You are not trash. Good is absolutely possible in your future. Don’t forget that words have power. Be careful how much poison you throw in your own well.